Pushing the Reset Button

Posted By on Dec 6, 2019 |


Some days, my head feels like it’s going to explode with all the login and password information needed to operate both a business and a personal life. Over Thanksgiving, someone mentioned that we’re about to enter the “Roaring Twenties”. Really?! When I think of that decade in history and compare it to the upcoming decade, I wonder what our ancestors would have thought of our use of technology. Has it really enhanced our lives?

Having reset what feels like dozens of passwords this week — and why did I ever choose those security questions? — I wonder if our kids ever feel the need for a reset button. And, I wonder if it is possible to have a password for every child — you know, something to make them open up to us and do what we want them to, just like a computer.

The thing is, our computers exist for us. They have no other use or purpose. Our kiddos exist just…because. They have lots of purposes, and purpose. One of the biggest milestones in a child’s life is when he or she figures out that they don’t have to do what we want them to do. It’s called independence, and it’s an awesome thing. (The next step we want them to immediately master is collaboration, so that we can negotiate our wants and needs respectfully. This is the step that can take a lifetime to achieve.)

One of our toddlers started at Oak Lane fairly recently. He has a part-time schedule, and wasn’t here for Thanksgiving week. Coming back this week, he needed to reconnect and settle in again. At one point during the late afternoon, he asked to go see the chickens. Going to see the chickens on campus was an activity that had helped him to settle in when he first started coming here. So, even though by that time of day it was dark and raining, we went to see the chickens. He was so happy. And so was I. No password needed, just holding hands in the rainy dark. We had pushed the reset button.